Take a look at our latest blog from one of our Family Solicitors, Rebecca Baker, for advice on managing struggling relationships after the festive period:
It is such a relief to pack Christmas away. I have eaten everything and that Elf, I am very pleased to say, is banished so I no longer must use brain power on its nightly antics. Back to work at last!
I know everyone feels differently but I love New Year. A fresh, clean slate. I do not mourn the festivities, and I really do not mind admitting that I bid a cheery farewell as the kids go back to school. Peace reigns and normality is restored.
As a Family Solicitor, I know my phone will start to ring. There is usually an annual report in the media reminding us of ‘Divorce Day’ when apparently divorce enquires spike. I am not sure that’s true. I just think many of us often put off such tasks until January, as December can be so overwhelming.
I suppose the New Year can be a time to reflect and Christmas, sadly full of family politics and overspending, can be touch for struggling relationships. If you do find yourself in this difficult position, consider:-
- A consultation
Separation and divorce are a huge step. The first consultation with a family solicitor can be useful and reassuring. It helps you get your ducks on a row, even if you are not ready to go ahead. I find we almost always identify what early action is needed, for example, protecting your interest in family property.
- Talking to your spouse
This is so hard and, at times, unfeasible if there is domestic abuse. However, if there is common ground, there will be smaller legal fees and less upset longer term. If you really can’t face talking, use technology, although it is crucial to think about what a Judge would think of your message before you send it.
- Not involving the children
The courts understand that children should not be included in adult issues. It can be upsetting for them and have a long-term effect on their well-being. Most of the time, children benefit from maintaining a relationship with both parents, provided this is safe.
- Getting support
Relationship breakdowns are lonely. Reach out to friends and family as much as you can. Local support groups, in person and online can be an invaluable source of emotional support.
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